Table of Contents Introduction For Psychologists Chapter 1 A Model of Healing More about well- vs. poorly-integrated networks Implications of the model Chapter 2 How Therapy Works Techniques Debriefing Talking Books on specific problems Venting Catharsis Free association Dreams Alternating bilateral stimulation Body work Desensitization Art Journal Concepts Chapter 3 Spiritual Practice and Healing Spiritual practices Ethical behavior Meditation makes more healing possible Mindfulness Prayer and other devices What would Jesus do? Embracing each experience Faith healing Role reversal Forgiveness and not taking it personally Twelve steps Spiritual practice as an obstacle to healing Spirituality is not a substitute for healing I'm too holy to have strong feelings Co-optation of the spiritual path Chapter 4 A Real Example Chapter 5 Trusting the Process of Emotional Growth "Embracing feelings is childish and undisciplined." Mistaking healing for indulgence "We'll behave badly in the grip of those feelings. " Self-protection Mistaking coping for healing "Healing is passivity, refusing to face problems." "We'll get caught in feeling bad and be miserable to n purp Remembered overwhelm Why trust is necessary and justified Building trust What are your unacceptable feelings? Distinguish behavior from feeling The components of emotion Meditation on the nature of emotion Where is your limit? Find the positive intention in the strategy A better way to meet your needs Example Trust allows transformation Emotional healing follows its own schedule Control versus surrender Chapter 6 The Flow of the Work Developing resources Identifying material in need of integration Bringing resources to material Chapter 7 The Resources that Foster Growth Resource Assessment Sheet Spiritual Perspective Salience Access to feelings Tolerance for feelings Control of attention Other aides Giving help Getting help Bringing the spiritual to the problem Cooperation with the subconscious Respect for yourself How to develop weak areas Developing a rich, robust spiritual view Articulating values Inner peace or harmony, well-being Connection Beliefs Salience Access to feelings Tolerance for feelings Control of attention Other aids Giving help Getting help Bringing the spiritual to the emotional Cooperation with the subconscious mind Loving attitude toward oneself Chapter 8 Embracing Life Experiment: the relationship of embracing to satisfac How to embrace an experience Satisfaction scale living in accord with your values New strategies Crossing Attention Barriers Doing consciously what you would otherwise do unconsci Chapter 9 What to Work On Finding the crux of a problem Analyzing the problem Finding chronic problems Instructions for a systematic analysis of discord Chapter 10 Finding the Template Memory Techniques in detail Useful questions Scanning the past Vent Starting from a strategy Talk to feelings Tell a friend Ask the subconscious Ask for a dream Make up a story Work in symbols Chapter 11 A Program of Development Introductory Program Instructions for debriefing Building Resources Ongoing Work Event or class of events Feeling Problem Chapter 12 Exercises for Developing Resources Rich, robust spiritual view Articulating Values List your values List what you want guiding you Inner peace or harmony, well-being Invite a quality Experiments in perceiving spirit Contemplation: Spiritual Yearning Investigate Well-being Guided Meditation: A Peaceful Place Meditation on peace Gratitude practice Receiving practice Connection Guided Meditation: Interconnection Giving practice Inferring needs from feelings Replace judgment with statement of needs Stop taking it personally Experiment in praying for someone else Universality test Try on another's shoes Beliefs Inside or Out? Ideas to consider Review old ideas For those who believe in God Pin down what you mean by evil Salience Gratitude Prayer New strategies Compassion in daily life Mindfulness Nightly Review Others' attitudes Blame becomes boundaries Splitting the infinitive Get specific Who am I? Relinquish Material Means Repairs Access to feelings Attitude Name that feeling A journal of feelings Listen to your feelings Exploring Emotions The structure of emotion Thank the feelings Exploring Criticism Letting go of judgment Tolerance for feelings Dipping in to overwhelm Venting Embrace minor pain Cost-benefit analysis Experiment with feelings you hate Split the physical component from the mental Find the positive intention in the feelings Writing with alternate hands Tell a friend Using desire Exploring resistance to feelings Escape Control of attention Getting some distance Counting breaths Noting perceptions meditation Structure for engaging feelings Start at the end of a memory Noting thoughts and perceptions meditation Guided meditation: Watching the experience parade Mindfulness Letting go of the breath Regular Meditation Other aides for anchoring attention Writing Pets and stuffed animals Talking to someone in your imagination Analysis Fiction for analysis Fiction for catharsis Alternating bilateral stimulation Giving help Translate spiritual images Listen without speaking End the listening session Speak only to encourage the other Only try to understand Remember the other's goodness Finding the speaker's spiritual access points Other suggestions Getting help Your part Boundaries Bringing the spiritual to the emotional Choose a symbol Guided meditation on connecting loss to light What does best possible outcome look like? Get a hug Befriending the subconscious mind Notice and thank It's 10 o'clock. Do you know where your attention is? Dialogue Do it consciously Remember your dreams Ask for a dream Devices An amplifier A condenser Direct contact Tapping unconscious wisdom Love for yourself Contemplation of compassion Guided meditation on compassion Guided meditation on loving yourself